Sunday, May 09, 2010

As I've been reviewing in my mind the events of the Warlock/Witch courtship, I've again come to the conclusion that there really is no logic in love; it really is 90% happenstance, or divine jimmyrigging.. I even had a moment, after thinking about everything that the Warlock and I have put each other through, that we must have been insane to marry each other. Unable to continue our story, I looked at the Warlock one evening, and said, "We've had more good times than bad, right?" The look he gave me was not unlike this.
So here's where things get wonderful...and rocky. If you want a perfect romance with endearing characters with minor flaws that fall completely head over heels and stay that way forever and never say an unkind word or do a stupid thing to each other, go read a different story, 'cuz this ain't it.

So, after being friends for quite awhile, I totally and accidentally fell in love with the Warlock. We had somehow separated from our large group of friends and rather than going to the cafeteria for dinner, we decided to walk to the Galaxy diner and then catch a movie at the dollar movie theater. I cannot pinpoint the exact moment of my slip, but I believe it was somewhere between balloon hats in the diner and the middle of Golden Eye, before the Warlock put his strong arm over my shoulders. After that, for the next three weeks, we were seen together, hand in hand and shoulder to shoulder at all times.

I'm not sure why the Warlock did this, but throughout our friendship, and during the time that we were dating, he traveled back to his hometown a lot. I met old girlfriends, saw his old hangouts, and even spent time with his extended family. I believe it took the Warlock 5 years longer than I to learn about me, my family, my past. I'm making myself sound mysterious, but I didn't feel mysterious, and the truth was, that at that time, I just didn't feel atypical. As I've gotten older, though, I realize that life is really lived in the details and in small moments.

One day, the Warlock and I were lounging around in the Morris Center. We decided to get up and go get something accomplished, but first the Warlock needed to check his mail. He checked his mail and was bummed by what he found there--a parking ticket, an expensive parking ticket, $35. That was a lot of money to me back then. When you get paid $5 an hour... I was shocked by his irresponsibility. I began to feel upset and then paused. "Why should I feel upset by his parking ticket?" I thought to myself. And then, in my head, "You're going to marry him." And I said, "No way." I really was not interested in being eternally bonded to an intentional and careless rule-breaker.

Later that week one of the Warlock's old girlfriends came down to check out our college campus. It just happened to be the night of our ward social. The whole night he spent hanging out with his old girlfriend at our ward social. Now everyone knew that we were supposed to be "together," so when I got back to my dorm, my friends wanted to know how I was going to respond to that kind of treatment. I still really liked the Warlock, but it all seemed so pointless anyway. He'd be leaving on a mission in the fall, I'd be returning home for the summer to work at Rock Hand Hardware. And while there would be no dating this summer, I didn't need to be attached to him like that. I was quite certain that we could be just friends. And I was quite certain that friends were all we should be forever.

And so we walked to a park. I told him how pointless it all seemed, and set him free. He remarked that this was the most amiable break-up ever. So it would seem.

11 comments:

K said...

In case I haven't mentioned it yet, I am enjoying your story and I'm excited to hear more! (o:

Jess said...

I think you were born in the wrong century. You would make an excellent writer of serials (I'm thinking Dickens-era England). In other words, good cliffhanger! Keep it coming!

The Warlock said...

Yo, witchy, Imma let you finish, but I totally have the best viewpoint on this of all time.

Flora said...

I think I remember this moment in time ... you, the warlock ... staying on the phone all night and driving roomates up the wall (we still loved you though!) And funny I don't think I ever spoke this outloud to anyone, but I knew then that the two of you would end up together - even when you broke it off, and there was a mission looming for him and possibly one for you -- you still just 'fit'. There are just some people that are made for each other! I'm loving the story ... makes me wonder about ours ... have there been more good times than bad?! Hmmmmm ...

tenacious d said...

This is fascinating! Keep the story coming. You two have always just looked "right" together, and part of that may have been just that you had been together probably four or five years when I first met you.

Sheralie said...

I am so glad we get the rest of this story. And I am glad that you are honest and don't sugar coat everything. Those kind of romances make me want to throw up :)

Nancy said...

I may have mentioned this before, but I like this story immensely.

Jecca Lee Ivie Johnson said...

When it's right, it's right, no matter the road you take to get there. And I'm glad the extended family was included in the courtship. We all thought you were a perfect match!!!

Nicholas said...

FIL here, and I must say, as a parent of the male primate in this story, I remained confused but hopefully flexible through this whole matter...I really enjoy reading this from the witch perspective, anticipating a warlock perspective also. Great stuff.

BTW, I have learned a totally surprising fact that the ideal model for romance and marriage resembles in no way any particular set of circumstances that have ever transpired in reality on this planet, ever, to any two people or reasonable facsimile of same.

It is true that if anyone ever claims or has claimed to have had a continuous, predictable, hiccup/drama free romantic relationship previous to or immediately following an incedence of matrimony, that person may be reliably judged to be from another planet and should be studied carefully.

Tiffany W. said...

ok... seriously... hurry up and finsih it! I love reading this! :) And i want to hear the "warlock's" point of view too!

Alicia said...

I can't wait for the next installment...I'm curious now. :)